Counseling For Infidelity in CT

Discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful is one of the most shocking and terrifying events a person can experience. Your feelings hit you like bolts of lightning. You might be in disbelief. You may feel lost and alone because you don’t know what to do next. You may feel scared because you’re not sure sure if your life will be changed forever. It’s likely that you feel anger towards your unfaithful spouse. Worst of all, you might feel your self-confidence fading fast. You might feel unloved, and you absolutely feel betrayed. Just remember this: it was not your fault. If you are experiencing any of these feelings, get counseling for infidelity immediately.

Infidelity Specialist Or Marriage Counselor?

Marriage counseling for infidelity is a very specific subset of general marriage counseling. I have specialized in counseling for infidelity, in Westport CT, for 15 years. I know what works; and I know what doesn’t work. If you want to save your marriage, pick up the phone right away. Sitting with it in silence only makes things worse. Now is the time to communicate.

You Need Truthfulness Now

The most important thing you need right now is the truth. You can’t decide what to do until you know the facts. Unfortunately, sometimes the facts are hard to come by. It’s not that your spouse is a liar, it is just likely that he or she feels enormous fear and shame. Your spouse does not want to hurt you anymore then you’re hurt already. He or she may think that the truth will cost them their marriage, their family, their entire lifestyle.

During the first session of marriage counseling for infidelity with me, I ask for a lot. Should you decide on infidelity counseling with me, I will be asking you to provide your spouse with some level of safety so he or she will be more willing to answer your questions. I will be asking your spouse to never lie to you again. Instead of lying, I will suggest that your spouse temporarily answers a difficult question with, “I’m not ready to answer that yet.”

Obviously, the affair has to end immediately. And you have to feel complete reassurance that the relationship is over. I will provide three or four suggestions on how to end the relationship, so you can feel more secure that it is really over.

Do You Still Love Each Other?

One of the most important questions, of course, is in finding out if your spouse still loves you, or is in love with someone else. You would be surprised at the number of tortured people who find themselves in love with two people.

You may find yourself wondering if you are still in love with him or her. For some, it feels very much like they don’t know the person they are married to any longer.

Marriage Counseling For Infidelity

Marriage counseling for infidelity, offered by a counselor who specializes in the field of infidelity, can repair the damage. It can also build a better relationship than you ever thought possible. If you don’t know what to do, and I suspect you do not, make an appointment with a qualified marriage counselor who is an infidelity specialist. Simply reaching out for help and making an appointment will give you immediate comfort.