Betrayal – Therapy For Your Broken Heart

Therapy for your broken heart is important. It is the most painful, the most ugly, the most devastating blow a person can experience. The dictionary defines betrayal as the “breaking or violation of a presumptive, contract, trust or confidence that produces moral or psychological conflict within a relationship.” I couldn’t have said it better myself. When you are injured from a betrayal by the one you love, it can make you feel like your entire world is unsafe.

Betrayal – How To Find Out the Real Truth

The first thing you have to do is make sure you won’t be betrayed twice. You must find out all you need to know about the betrayal, in order to try and trust your spouse again. Be careful not to ask for too many facts, as details are hard to get out of your mind. But find out the summary of events, the players, and who knew about it while you did not. The best way to get truthfulness from another person, especially if they are scared or ashamed, is to reassure them that answering your questions will not make you angry. You won’t get honesty from a person if they fear consequences. Relationships that experience a second betrayal usually don’t recover.

Betrayal – How To Control the Thoughts In Your Head

If you have been betrayed, your brain is likely asking yourself a thousand questions. Is he smarter that I am? Is she younger than I? Am I stupid because I did not see this earlier? Am I awful in bed? These are but some of the painful and negative things you might be thinking. I’d like you to write the ugly thoughts that you have down on little pieces of paper and put them in a box. Your mind will know that it can safely forget or postpone thinking about it as it is written down somewhere for later. I can’t erase your brain but I can teach you how to compartmentalize it with six specific steps over time.

Betrayal – How To Regain Your Confidence

Remember that when you have suffered a betrayal from someone you love, it is not at all a statement about you. It is a statement about your partner. You did nothing wrong. So go to your best friends, people who you know will be truthful with you, and ask them what they think of you. I am sure you will recognize your character and integrity, and all the reasons for why you are deserving of love and respect, and your confidence will begin to climb back again.

Lisa Ryan, LPC
Lisa Ryan, LPC
Relationship Expert - Infidelity Specialist - Guest Speaker ~ Loves the big blue sea, homely dogs, the unvarnished truth, and making people feel better. As an Infidelity Specialist in CT since 2002, Lisa continues to retain fairness, an enormous empathy for all clients and a desire to forge a positive outcome, with a commitment that matches that of the clients themselves. She helps couples rebuild their relationships after the discovery of an extramarital affair, a secret relationship or a technology addiction that breaches trust. She guides her clients through a 5-pronged solution-driven plan, designed by her, which has a success rate near 95%. Clients attribute their achievement to Lisa’s non-judgmental approach and genuine understanding of the unique anguish experienced by both parties when trust has been broken.

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