Help Me Save My Marriage

The most frequent comment I receive from writers and twitter followers is the simple request, “Help me save my marriage.” There is often a hint of fear as we all know – it takes two to create a good marriage but it only takes one to end one.

Help Me Save My Marriage – Prioritize

Put your spouse ahead of everything except your own personal well-being. If you are one of the people who wrote – help me save my marriage, please create blocks of time to be together. Don’t wait for everything else to be done first. Get a sitter, take her out to dinner, put down all technology. A cell phone or laptop can make your partner feel like you are muti-tasking. No one wants only partial attention! Make the time, and put him or her first. Always. If you want to save your relationship, let your spouse know they are cherished.

Help Me Save My Marriage – Listen

Be as good at trying to understand and accept your partner’s point of view without having to agree with it. No one said you both have to feel the same way about everything. Summarize what you hear in a line or two and ask a few questions to learn more about what your spouse just said. It is not the time for you to say, “Me too!” If you want to stay soul mates forever, become an attentive listener.

Help Me Save My Marriage – Be Accountable

Like they always say – you can’t change another person. But you can change yourself. I’m not asking you to change who you are as a person, but people with strong marriages are finely tuned to the needs of each other. You ask me, “Help me save my marriage.” Then I will ask you to have dinner together even if it’s late. Care about how the day went for your spouse. Make love often and initiate regularly. Help me save my marriage? Take very good care of your emotional connection. For other ideas go here.

Lisa Ryan, LPC
Lisa Ryan, LPC
Relationship Expert - Infidelity Specialist - Guest Speaker ~ Loves the big blue sea, homely dogs, the unvarnished truth, and making people feel better. As an Infidelity Specialist in CT since 2002, Lisa continues to retain fairness, an enormous empathy for all clients and a desire to forge a positive outcome, with a commitment that matches that of the clients themselves. She helps couples rebuild their relationships after the discovery of an extramarital affair, a secret relationship or a technology addiction that breaches trust. She guides her clients through a 5-pronged solution-driven plan, designed by her, which has a success rate near 95%. Clients attribute their achievement to Lisa’s non-judgmental approach and genuine understanding of the unique anguish experienced by both parties when trust has been broken.

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