July 2013 - Page 2 of 3 - Advocacy Circle
I use a one-page document called Ground Rules, which has been fine-tuned for over 15 years of marriage counseling experience, that will guide you on how to be heard and how to listen, in one session or less. You can't really share a complete thought until you apply the basic points of good communication that you will learn in couples therapy.
I love my couples as much as my individual clients. I love how they shave the truth at first, and I love how, eventually, they bravely lay it all out on the table. I smile as they blame and accuse each other because I know that soon they will feel safe enough to take ownership of the only person they can truly change, themselves.
I am always surprised when a new client asks me if I will see them even though they are not married. If after hearing your story I think I can help you, then I will absolutely take you on as my client.
For every man who writes to me or calls me for help saying, "My wife won't forgive my affair," I feel compassion for both he and his wife. Below are 10 steps that will move her forward as quickly as she possible. But remember that the timetable to recovery is completely up to her. Your candor and remorse will speed things up though.