No one goes into a marriage expecting divorce. I like to call divorce the little death. It feels like an ending for a lot of women. Maybe you’re feeling that way right now.

But divorce isn’t the end.

At least, it doesn’t have to be. With the right attitude, your divorce can be an opportunity for rebirth. My hope is that all women can move on after divorce with the positive goal of a bright future ahead.

In this post, we’ll address the three main concerns you might be dealing with during your divorce. I’ve also included some helpful tips to help you overcome any challenges you face in this transition period.

You’re Worried About Money

If you had any money concerns during your marriage, you might be in an even worse situation now. You’ve suddenly found yourself solely responsible for all the bills.

You’re head of your household now! Here are some ideas that will help you see this as a positive step:

  • You’re not responsible for anyone else’s mistakes now
  • You can decide how and when to spend your money
  • You’ll find new ways to live a joyful life on a budget
  • You can explore exciting new freelance opportunities

You’re Afraid of Being Alone

Based on what I’ve seen, most people generally get what they want. You might know someone stuck in a decades-long loveless marriage. But what do I see? Someone who prefers to stay married than endure loneliness.

If you’re determined to find a wonderful partner, the chances are you will work hard towards that goal and find success one day.

There are plenty of great guys in the world. But you can give yourself the gift of learning how to enjoy your own company today.

  • Accept every invitation you get
  • Try to avoid a serious relationship for at least a year
  •  Work on empowering yourself through achievements and self-respect
  •  Don’t assume that all men will be like your ex

You Worry About Your Kids

Divorce isn’t easy for kids. I understand. But it’s better than teaching them that marriage is a painful relationship built on arguments or the silent treatment. You and your spouse will probably be better parents when you have some distance.

Divorce happens between two people. There’s no such thing as divorcing your kids. You will miss your kids when they’re not with you. But you can make it a point to enjoy the free time you have now:

  • Talk to your kids about their thoughts and feelings
  • Make an effort to avoid negative comments about their father
  • Try to simplify dual-household living as much as you can
  • Maintain a mature and respectful relationship with your ex 

Divorce is huge. It’s certainly as big a subject as marriage. I’m planning many different Master Classes to cover specific tools you can use to navigate divorce.

We’ll cover: what you should know about mediation, how to deal when your ex remarries, and what to do when you struggle to bond with your boyfriend’s kids. And much, much more.

Today, take comfort in knowing that there IS life after divorce. In fact, there can be abundance after divorce. You are having a human experience, complete with all its ups and downs. You have a lot of company and support from individuals you haven’t even met.

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Lisa Ryan, LPC
Lisa Ryan, LPC
Relationship Expert - Infidelity Specialist - Guest Speaker ~ Loves the big blue sea, homely dogs, the unvarnished truth, and making people feel better. As an Infidelity Specialist in CT since 2002, Lisa continues to retain fairness, an enormous empathy for all clients and a desire to forge a positive outcome, with a commitment that matches that of the clients themselves. She helps couples rebuild their relationships after the discovery of an extramarital affair, a secret relationship or a technology addiction that breaches trust. She guides her clients through a 5-pronged solution-driven plan, designed by her, which has a success rate near 95%. Clients attribute their achievement to Lisa’s non-judgmental approach and genuine understanding of the unique anguish experienced by both parties when trust has been broken.

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