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In you want a really terrific marriage, and who doesn't, it's imperative that you both put your marriage first. That means that your relationship trumps children (most difficult to comprehend), work, friends, hobbies and your families of origin.
Premarital counseling identifies early challenges that have not yet taken root, which is the challenge with regular couples therapy. Explore your feelings and expectations about finances and lifestyle. Learn what your fiancé's priorities in life are. Uncover which values you each hold most dear.
While divorce counseling during the process of mediation or collaboration tends to be sad and sorrowful, a divorce that is acrimonious tends to cause anger and hurt. Rarely do I see a couple together, for divorce counseling, who are in the process of getting divorced using separate attorneys. It's too late for couples therapy.
I use a one-page document called Ground Rules, which has been fine-tuned for over 15 years of marriage counseling experience, that will guide you on how to be heard and how to listen, in one session or less. You can't really share a complete thought until you apply the basic points of good communication that you will learn in couples therapy.
I love my couples as much as my individual clients. I love how they shave the truth at first, and I love how, eventually, they bravely lay it all out on the table. I smile as they blame and accuse each other because I know that soon they will feel safe enough to take ownership of the only person they can truly change, themselves.
I am always surprised when a new client asks me if I will see them even though they are not married. If after hearing your story I think I can help you, then I will absolutely take you on as my client.